1. Seek God by regularly praying together as a couple. According to author Dennis Rainey, prayerlesness and selfishness are co-conspirators against oneness in marriage. In doing this, you are able to build a bridge of understanding between your spouse and you. Forgive one another, and pray.
2. Seek one another, faithfully. Two people in marriage relationship have areas where they just don't automatically come together. It is imperative that you don't allow your mate to hide but that you seek him or her out. Don't live by feelings and give up, but live by faith and seek him out.
3. Seek to defeat the enemy together. Your mate is not your enemy. Never forget that you are at war and that your marriage is not taking place on a romantic balcony, but a spiritual battlefield.