Are you possessed by spirits of boyfriends past? When you can't get your ex out of your mind, it's all too easy to remain stuck with the memories and forget that better fish are available. The only way to lay old "ghost" to rest - and make room for new love - is to exorcise your ex!
Release the Demons
Before you can move on, you need to let out all those pent up feelings that are haunting you. It's totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even furious about the way things ended. Release those feelings! Talk to someone you trust and have a good cry or rant. Punch your pillow or write out your emotions in a diary. Draw zits on his photo if that makes you feel better. Do whatever it takes to squeeze out all that hurt you've been holding on to.
Seal the Gates of Hell
Seeing the relationship end can hurt like hell. To heal that pain, you've got to put the past behind you and close the gates on those feelings, so they can never creep back in. Start by getting rid of everything that reminds you of him. Toss those photos, birthday cards and mementos, or at least stash these in a box and shove it to the back of your closet. Delete his e-mails and his name on your Friendster, Facebook and Twitter list. Remove all evidence that he was once part of your life, and say goodbye to painful memories.
Cleanse Thyself
To prevent a sequel to the horror that was your breakup, free yourself of left over feelings. List the reasons why you're better off without him and remember to include all his ugly points. Now make a list of the things you want from a boyfriend in the future. You'll soon see that the past is best left behind you, while the future has much better things in store.
Stay Strong
Despite such measures, the ghost of your relationship may still haunt you for a while. That's why it is important to stay strong in your commitment to move on without him. Stop checking your e-mails obsessively - or rushing hoe to see if he's called. Find a new route that doesn't put you in his path. Don't be tempted to text or instant message him. And more daydreaming about getting back together! Break free from all the memories of your past relationship, and you'll be ready for another one.
Create Positive Vibes
A scary experience like breaking up will change you. That's good, because you will learn from it and be ready to move as an all new improved person. This is a great time to reassess your life and set some new goals. Throw yourself into new activities and make new friends. Start looking forward to a happier life, and forget about looking back. Focus on a positive future, and let the past go!
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