Is the Guy You're Seeing Mr. Wrong?

Here's a nice article for ladies out their are having second thoughts about the guy they are dating. Do you have a feeling that the guy you're dating might be more of a dud then a stud? Take a look at some telltale signs.

• He is selfish. If the word compromise is alien to your man's consciousness, chances are he's only thinking of himself. Healthy men know how to make compromises, relationship experts say.

• He doesn't appreciate you. The guy you're dating should not only appreciate you but also respect you, your friends and family.

• He has no drive. Does your guy spend more time on gimiks with his buddies or watching TV than anything else? If he's busy doing things that don't take his life to new places, he might be a dud.

• He doesn't show emotion. To be in a healthy relationship, both parties need to be open and honest about their vulnerabilities - and not be afraid to show their emotions. If you find that you're giving more emotionally to the relationship than he is, it might be time to move on.

• He doesn't have a good relationship with his mother. If a guy's relationship with his mother is constantly strained, it's not a good sign for your relationship. He does not have to be a mama's boy but a guy - at any age - must have a loving and healthy relationship with his mother.

• He has no friends. Not having many friends, or having friends that are rude, is a sign that he's not easy to get along with. And men who are not easy to get along with must not impose themselves on women who seek a loving relationship.

• He makes you feel bad about yourself. Why would you want to be around someone who doesn't make you feel happy, successful and fulfilled? If he doesn't listen to you and constant;y puts you down, it's a sign of trouble.

• He's untrustworthy. if you are unable to trust your partner, you will spend countless time and energy wondering about his capacity to be honest and straightforward about your relationship.

Learn How to say NO

Learning how, and when to say no, takes practice, especially if you're someone who's honestly interested in helping other. Here are some tips to helps you to say NO.

• Try and lose the guilt. By all means, be generous in helping others but let it be within the bounds of what you're capable of.

• Make sure you fully understand requests before you agree to anything.

• Avoid a culture of consensus. Often, we agree to do things to make people happy and on our side. Unfortunately this isn't always beneficial.

• Stick to your plans. If saying yes to something throws your plan to get something done way off, make sure you question if it's worth it.

• The best intentions might not have the best outcomes. Even if you feel you are helping by agreeing to take on a task you may be actually hindering other task from getting done.