Monday, June 21, 2010

Ways to Learn how to Forgive

We all know that forgiving someone who has hurt us can be very difficult. Frederick Luskin, PhD, author of Forgive for Good, states however that "people who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness. "Here are some ways to learn on how to forgive.

  • Calm yourself. Focus on something that makes you happy: a beautiful scene, a person you love, a happy event.
  • Don't wait for an apology. You might have to wait for forever to let go of your anger if you wait for an apology from whoever has hurt you - some people either don't know that they have offended you or don't want to apologize. Why don't you forgive the person even if he or she doesn't ask? Forgiving doesn't mean that you condone whatever he or she has done.
  • Remove the person's control over you. When you forgive, you remove the person's power over you. You release yourself from his power to make you angry, depressed or whatever feeling he may provoke in you.
  • Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Gain a probably enlightening perspective by putting yourself in the other person's shoes. The person may have acted out of ignorance or maybe even love in what he or she did.
  • Forgive yourself. Some people are their own harshest critic. Learn to accept and forgive yourself of your own failings.
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Wednesday, June 2, 2010

How To Look Busy When You Really Are Not

1. Always walk with a few documents and folders in your hands. People with nothing in their hands look like they're going to eat in the canteen. People with newspapers in their hands look like they're going to the toilet. People with a few folders in their hands look like they're hardworking employees going to an important meeting.

2. Use computers to look busy. Anytime you use a computer, it looks like work, even if you're surfing, emailing or playing games.

3. Have a messy desk. Build huge files of documents around the table, even if it's one year old. Pile them high and wide. If you know someone is coming to your desk, bury the documents you need halfway down the existing stock and then search for it when he arrives.

4. When the boss is working late, leave the office late a well. You could read magazines, do crossword puzzle, or play solitaire. Just make sure when the boss leaves, you leave with him as well.

5. Creatively sigh for effect. Sigh as loud as possible hen there are many people around, giving the impression that you are under extreme pressure.

6. Build vocabulary. Read up on computer magazines and pick out all their jargon or simply invent words you don't understand. Use the phrase phrases freely in conversation with your bosses. Remember they don't have to understand what you say but you will sound impressive.

7. Have two jackets. If you work in a big office, always leave a spare jacket draped over the back of your seat. This gives the impression that you are still somewhere in the office. The second jacket should be worn while you are malling somewhere.

8. Most important, don't forward this to your boss by mistake....
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A boot for my wife

It was last week when me and my wife was watching a movie, it was a horror movie. I think it was Zombieland and there was this female character that is really whipping the ass of the lead character and also the zombies. But my wife was not that interested in the movie though because she's not a fan of the horror movies. But there is one thing that really caught her attention and that was the boots that the female lead was wearing, well to be precise it was a hunter boots a perfect combination to her black jean which really gives her a look of a hunter.

Well my wife keeps on telling me that she really like those boots, but its not available here in our malls, so I was a bout to give up when I stumble upon this website on the net that sells this type of boots. There's this one boots that I want to purchase for her, its a hunter wellington boots. Though its not the exact thing as in the movies, but i think this would do. I'm sure she'll like it.
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