Make Room For New Love! Exorcise Your Ex!

Are you possessed by spirits of boyfriends past? When you can't get your ex out of your mind, it's all too easy to remain stuck with the memories and forget that better fish are available. The only way to lay old "ghost" to rest - and make room for new love - is to exorcise your ex!

Release the Demons

Before you can move on, you need to let out all those pent up feelings that are haunting you. It's totally normal to feel sad, upset, disappointed, lonely and even furious about the way things ended. Release those feelings! Talk to someone you trust and have a good cry or rant. Punch your pillow or write out your emotions in a diary. Draw zits on his photo if that makes you feel better. Do whatever it takes to squeeze out all that hurt you've been holding on to.

Seal the Gates of Hell

Seeing the relationship end can hurt like hell. To heal that pain, you've got to put the past behind you and close the gates on those feelings, so they can never creep back in. Start by getting rid of everything that reminds you of him. Toss those photos, birthday cards and mementos, or at least stash these in a box and shove it to the back of your closet. Delete his e-mails and his name on your Friendster, Facebook and Twitter list. Remove all evidence that he was once part of your life, and say goodbye to painful memories.

Cleanse Thyself

To prevent a sequel to the horror that was your breakup, free yourself of left over feelings. List the reasons why you're better off without him and remember to include all his ugly points. Now make a list of the things you want from a boyfriend in the future. You'll soon see that the past is best left behind you, while the future has much better things in store.

Stay Strong

Despite such measures, the ghost of your relationship may still haunt you for a while. That's why it is important to stay strong in your commitment to move on without him. Stop checking your e-mails obsessively - or rushing hoe to see if he's called. Find a new route that doesn't put you in his path. Don't be tempted to text or instant message him. And more daydreaming about getting back together! Break free from all the memories of your past relationship, and you'll be ready for another one.

Create Positive Vibes

A scary experience like breaking up will change you. That's good, because you will learn from it and be ready to move as an all new improved person. This is a great time to reassess your life and set some new goals. Throw yourself into new activities and make new friends. Start looking forward to a happier life, and forget about looking back. Focus on a positive future, and let the past go!

Don't Be a 40 Year Old Virgin

Have you watch this movie? I have, yes the movie is funny, it makes you laugh your hearts out. But here's the question would you want that to happen to you? Would you want to reach that age without having to experience sex? or even the first base maybe, or even just be able to make a conversation to a woman? Frightening isn't it hahahaha.

But there are actually ways how to avoid being that 40 year old virgin. There are ways on how to get girls to like you or even get that girl to be hooked to you forever. The technique really is simple you must get to know the type of girl you are dating. A lot of experts give advice for dating, you can read it almost anywhere magazines, books, internet.

But most of those techniques are not successful because they assume one technique can work for every woman, which is not, because there are many type of women, and for every type there is a different approach. Its like a puzzle one piece can't fit in all.

There's actually a system that can help you in this problem, you may shell out money from your pocket for this system, but who cares about the price if you can get what you want. The system I'm talking about is the Pandoras Box, with this you can be assured of the woman of your dreams.

How to Keep The Romance Alive for Married Couples

As with most good things in life, it takes work to keep the flame of love burning. Let romance continue in your marriage with some helpful steps below:

• TELL THE TRUTH. It's the ultimate aphrodisiac and a great way to create connection between husband and wife. So tell the truth, like, "I feel safe when I am with you." Just share your feelings and speak from your experience.

• APPRECIATE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER. Take time to understand and focus on what it is you like about yourself, and your partner. Successful relationships have a five to one ratio of appreciations to criticisms; so if you want some fires lit, start appreciating.

• LISTEN. We all want to be seen and heard. Just being with your partner and just really listening can be magical for you both.

• CREATE ROMANCE WITHIN YOURSELF FIRST. Instead of looking for the spark from your partner, why don't you start the fire? Create your own romantic mood - dress up, put on music, prepare tasty food. Take time to love and appreciate yourself first. It will not be long before your partner will join the fun.

• ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT. Tell your partner that you want to spend some romantic time with him/her. (You might be surprised at how often many of them are unaware of this.) Of course, the best strategy is through kind and loving words.

Tips in Improving your Relationships through Passive Barriers

I have posted an article about using passive barriers in you personal finance. A passive barrier is something that makes the normal activity more difficult. In this article we use passive barriers to help in improving our relationships.

• Don't keep the TV remote near you when watching TV. If you are prone to channel surfing when you get home instead of bonding with your family or doing something more productive, simply take the remote away from the TV and keep it in a less accessible place.

• Do not keep your cell phone in your pocket. If your friends and family can hardly talk to you because you're always checking your phone, decide not to carry your phone everywhere. Focus on the people who are presently with you and the task at hand.
  

Using Guilt As A Tool To Manipulate

Using guilt as a tool to manipulate your partner or loved one may yield your desired results at the onset but it can be destructive to intimacy in the long run. When a person uses guilt, she is setting a condition before she gives her love to the other. When someone takes you on a guilt trip, try these strategies to get your relationship back on track.

1. Repeat to them what they just told you. "Are you saying that just because I don't take you out everyday means I don't love you anymore?" Or, "I have the feeling that you're mad because.....Am I right?

2. Set your boundaries. Ask them what they want and suggest options but let them know what you're not willing to do. Don't let them dictate their plans to you. Try to strike a balance between what they want and what you want.

3. It may hurt them but don't be afraid to say no. Give an explanation but if they persist, remain steadfast on your decision.

4. If you're in the wrong, acknowledge you fault and ask for forgiveness.

The process from guilt-laden relationship to one that's healthy may be a long process but It's well worth it.

Things not to do at your Workplace

Here are some things to avoid when you are at work, doing this will save you from getting your boss mad or the worse an immediate dismissal.

1. Falling asleep at work. This looks unprofessional and is generally not appreciated by employers. Check your lifestyle or your career choice. If you find yourself drifting off on a regular basis, you are probably spending late nights out or in need of a more stimulating career.

2. Stealing from the office. It may seem like it's no big deal. Bringing home office supplies like bond paper, paper clips and so on. But still it's considered stealing. And it doesn't only apply to material things. Stealing could take the form of using office time for personal matters, like spending so much time on Facebook or chatting with a friend.

3. Taking credit for someone else's work. Again, this can be classified as stealing. You steal idea from a colleague and make it appear as if it were your own. How to prevent someone from stealing your idea? By keeping your supervisor informed of your ideas and your progress.

4. Spreading a rumor about a coworker. You may think some office gossip is relatively harmless, but it sure is damaging not only to the subject but also to the rumor-monger. You can get the reputation of being untrustworthy or downright devious. And it can lead to a lawsuit.

5. Lying about an academic background. In most companies, this is a ground for dismissal. If you feel you don't have the required education, it is better to earn a real degree then lie about one your resume.

Nuggets Of Wisdom at Meetings

Here are some great nuggets of wisdom picked up during office meetings.

• In management, people learn and respond to what are. Similarly, children adopt their parents characteristics whether their parents want them to or not.

• Remember the "reciprocity rule" of human behavior. If I had a low opinion of you, you will eventually feel the same way about me.

• Communication has its limits. Candid communication is advisable only if the balance of power between two persons is relatively equal.

• Listening is more difficult than talking, People are more likely to change when they have the chance to talk.

• Praising people does not motivate them. Praise reminds people that they are being judged.

• Big changes are easier to follow than small ones. If change is big enough to withstand resistance, people are more likely to submit.

• We learn not from our failures but from our successes and the failures of others. Success encourages us to continue. But while failure is demoralizing, it is important because it tests out limits. It is also human nature to empathize with those who fail.

• There is no right way to be a manager. Different types of leaders enjoy equal success. Also, organizations thrive because other employees work hard, too, and make leaders look good.

• Fix situations not people. While it looks life people foul up, situations are the real culprit. Make changes to get people and systems to work better.

• If there's any one true thing that can be said about leaders, it is that they trust their own instincts.

• Lost causes are the only ones worth fighting for. They are the most important and humane and make us the best we can be. The absurd lesson of it is one must know what is a lost cause and give his best anyway.
  

What are the Risk of Dating

Here's one interesting article I found, well dating should be fun, but did you know there are also risk in dating? Listed below are some risk when it comes to dating.

• Rejection. Adolescents are especially sensitive in rejection. Feeling left out by peers can be devastating. When a social activity is planned, whether it is a group activity or a one to one dating activity, and an adolescent is not included, he or she might question his or her self worth. It is extremely important to encourage adolescents to share these feelings with caring adults. Feelings of rejection can result in a loss of self esteem.

• Sex-role stereotyping. Ideally, the dating experience will assist adolescents in becoming comfortable with their masculinity or femininity and their sex roles. However, it must be remembered that an adolescent has obtained previous information about masculinity and femininity almost entirely from his or her family. Adolescents tend to model the examples that have been set for them. Adolescents who have learned sex role stereotyping might continue attitudes and the accompanying behaviors in their dating relationships. Thus, while one person is learning to express his or her masculinity or femininity and sex role, the other person might be providing unhealthy feedback. When this occurs, adolescents should be encouraged to discuss the situation with trusted adults.

• Superficial relationships. Because peer acceptance is so important, adolescents might go through the motions of dating to be a part of the group rather than to obtain the benefits of dating. For example, an adolescent might date someone only because he or she is in a popular clique. This kind of relationship is superficial. Neither the quality of the relationship nor the well being of the other person involved is a priority. Some destructive behaviors might accompany superficial relationships. These behaviors might include leading someone on in order to continue dating, lying about feelings, and/or failing to pay attention to the other person's needs. If an adolescents obtains the desired benefit-acceptance from the peer group-he or she might receive enough satisfaction from superficial relationships that a pattern for this kind of relationship develops.

Sexiness in your Voice

Now lets compare the last two actress who played the sexy villain Catwoman, most people said that Halle Berry could never out-purr the sexy meow of feline fatale Michelle Pfeiffer. But does that make Pfeiffer sexier than Berry?

A study shows that those with attractive voices are more likely to be sexually adventurous. Researchers had 149 men and women rate recorded voices according to attractiveness. The study also showed that the most appealing voices belonged to people who had sex at an early age, had more sexual partners and were prone to infidelity.

The audibly seductive men had broad shoulders and narrow hips while sultry sounding women had smaller waists and wider hips. Also, their pinky finger on one hand is almost the same size as that on the other.

A theory suggests that long before humankind discovered the light bulb, people relied on voice quality to determine sex appeal.

How To Avoid Isolation in Marriage

Here is a nice article which can be a big help to married couples. Ever played hide and seek as a child? The game continues even in marriage, in our desire to hide and avoid getting hurt. So how do couples avoid isolation in marriage?

1. Seek God by regularly praying together as a couple. According to author Dennis Rainey, prayerlesness and selfishness are co-conspirators against oneness in marriage. In doing this, you are able to build a bridge of understanding between your spouse and you. Forgive one another, and pray.

2. Seek one another, faithfully. Two people in marriage relationship have areas where they just don't automatically come together. It is imperative that you don't allow your mate to hide but that you seek him or her out. Don't live by feelings and give up, but live by faith and seek him out.

3. Seek to defeat the enemy together. Your mate is not your enemy. Never forget that you are at war and that your marriage is not taking place on a romantic balcony, but a spiritual battlefield.

Simple Guide to Saying No

Yup I know it's hard to say no to someone. For some people saying No is a major decision. "saying yes when you need to say No causes burnout. You do yourself and the person making the request a disservice by saying yes all of the time," says author Duke Robinson. Here are some advice to help you.

• Saying No for the Sake of Your Wallet. If a friend in need asks for a huge loan, you can say. "I wish I could, but as a rule, I don't lend money to friends." By not singling out the person, you're not saying he or she is untrustworthy. According to communications trainer Don Gabor, "It can change the nature of your relationship if the person doesn't pay you back."

• Saying No for the Sake of Your Time. You are offered a promotion that you don't want and demands more hours and more responsibility. You can reply, "I'm flattered that you want me, but for personal reasons I'm not in a situation where I can take this on. Can we talk again if my circumstances change?" By saying this, your boss will understand that you have personal priorities that take precedence.

• Saying No for the Sake of Your Sanity. A guest offers to bring a dish that doesn't go with the theme of your party. Just say, "What a kind offer - thank you. I have already planned the menu, but do you have and dietary restrictions I should know about?" If she's just being nice, then acknowledging her offer lets the person know she did all she could. Of course, if she has dietary restrictions then you can change your mind and let her bring a dish that she can eat.

What to do When your Spouse is having an Affair

A nice article I found on our library archive about relationships. Marital infidelity doesn't mean the end of a marriage, although it may feel that way. Believe it or not, many affairs have served to jump start dying relationships and moved partners out of their comfort zones. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips from relationship experts:

1. The news will hit you hard and will hurt a lot but hold off making any hasty decision about your future.

2. Your spouse should agree to end the illicit relationship. If not, leave him or her.

3. When both of you are calm, have a serious talk about the root and causes of the affair.

4. Answer the question: What needs to change in your marriage to prevent future infidelity?

5. Seek counseling as a couple.

Relationship Traps: How To Avoid It

I had this post on my other blog, but I had to delete that blog because I'm trying to merge its content with this blog. If you want your love life to be successful, here are some relationships don't to keep in mind.

1. Don't try to change your partner. People who say, "If he/she loves me, then he/she will change" will soon find out how destructive this is in a relationship. If you love someone, you have to accept them - flaws and all.

2. Don't reject your partner to protect yourself. Those who feel the need to protect themselves by rejecting someone they love out of fear of being rejected need to sort out personal issues. If they feel they can't hold on to their partner, they have to first learn to accept themselves.

3. Don't expect your partner to be a mind reader. Communication is the lifeblood of relationship. A woman who thinks her man should know her needs is putting unrealistic burdens on him. Know what you want, ask for it clearly, and be ready to accept a yeas or no.

4. Don't think that it's your partner's role to make you happy. Your happiness is your responsibility.

5. Don't accuse your man of refusing to talk. Men will talk when they feel safe under the right circumstances. Don't coerce them into a dialogue if they're not ready.

Ways to Learn how to Forgive

We all know that forgiving someone who has hurt us can be very difficult. Frederick Luskin, PhD, author of Forgive for Good, states however that "people who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness. "Here are some ways to learn on how to forgive.

• Calm yourself. Focus on something that makes you happy: a beautiful scene, a person you love, a happy event.

• Don't wait for an apology. You might have to wait for forever to let go of your anger if you wait for an apology from whoever has hurt you - some people either don't know that they have offended you or don't want to apologize. Why don't you forgive the person even if he or she doesn't ask? Forgiving doesn't mean that you condone whatever he or she has done.

• Remove the person's control over you. When you forgive, you remove the person's power over you. You release yourself from his power to make you angry, depressed or whatever feeling he may provoke in you.

• Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Gain a probably enlightening perspective by putting yourself in the other person's shoes. The person may have acted out of ignorance or maybe even love in what he or she did.

• Forgive yourself. Some people are their own harshest critic. Learn to accept and forgive yourself of your own failings.
  

Say "Hello" to Anyone

Want to improve your relationship?? Say "hello" to anyone daily for at least one month. Here are some reasons why you should practice this.

• Saying hello means acknowledging someone's existence, however brief it may be, to acknowledge some else gives that person a sense of worth. In exchange you become a person to them too.

• Theres a study regarding this subject, wherein middle school teachers had to greet their students individually every month. The result, it raised the students productivity by 27 percent.

• It can save your marriage. When did you last say hello to your spouse?.
  

And don't forget to say hello each morning to the person who needs it most - YOU